Hater du rotet til de du bor sammen med?

Uryddig

Erin Doland har skrevet en tankevekkende artikkel i bloggen Unclutterer. Den handler om ulike holdninger til å rydde i hjemmet. Det har jeg tenkt litt på i det siste også. Men jeg har ikke tenkt så smart som Erin og typen hennes gjorde.

Erin og mannen var i utakt om hvordan de skulle ha det i hjemmet sitt. Mannen var i ferd med å miste vettet av alt rotet, og Erin ville ha et større hus å stappe ting inn i.

Løsningen kom etter at de satte seg ned og skrev to lister hver: En liste hvor de beskrev hvordan de ønsket at huset skulle være med hensyn til rot/rydd-balanse. En annen liste hvor de beskrev hvordan de selv bidro til å realisere dette idealet.

Utfallet var øyeåpnende for dem begge:

For starters, our visions weren’t that different. We both wanted a place for everything in our home. The difference was that I thought we needed a bigger home for all of our things, and he thought we needed fewer things for our current home.

After talking about our financial status and how we needed to be in our place for at least three or more years, I saw that my “bigger home” solution wasn’t practical. We couldn’t stay stuffed in a place for that amount of time. Yes, I wanted a bigger place, but I wasn’t going to sacrifice my husband’s sanity until we could get it.

Second, we found that our lists explaining what we did around the house to achieve our visions were extremely lopsided. And, strangely, I was doing more work than he was. It was not what we had expected at all.

What we had expected, and what was true to some extent, was that I wasn’t doing the few things that he wanted me to do and, as a result, he was dismissing everything else I was doing.

To fix this and the lopsided problem, we drew up a new list with all of the actions on it, and then went through and evenly divided the list. For a while, we even hung the list up in our kitchen to keep us on track.

Fiffig. Folk som setter seg ned og finner ut av ting ved å gå praktisk til verks. Hjelp til selvhjelp gjennom eksempelets makt, der altså.

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